Watch or listen…
Every word we say is recorded in heaven.
We spend 30% of our time speaking. Babies began sounding vows at age 3-4 months and start talking around six months of age (dada, mama). Between 12-18 months comes the famous word – NO. This is the most critical stage, where parents learn to communicate with their children. At age 18-24 months, they begin forming two-word sentences.
Speaking is a learned behavior, and there are two main elements of speaking effectively.
- What you say – (The words you say matter)
- How you say it – (Your Voice and Body Language)
Good relationships are made from good words and bad relationships from bad words. Words are nuclear – every word has a consequent- every word carries weight.
Key Passages: Matthew 12:36 (HCSB)
36 I tell you that on the day of judgment people will have to account for every careless word they speak. 37 For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.
Speaking will form connections, influence decisions, and motivate change.
God, Himself, spoke the word and the world into existence. So, if we are made in the image of God, then we, too, can speak life to our circumstances.
In Numbers 14:1-4 (HCSB), the Israelites wished their death. They would rather return to oppression and captivity because of their unbelief. If only they understood. People in fear and depression often focus on the negative side of events and circumstances rather than turning their hearts and minds to God.
We often speak out of the abundance of our hearts (Luke 6:45).
Words don’t just appear out of nowhere; they have a source and is called the heart. When our tongue is tied to the word of God, we will speak the truth, hope, joy, mercy, grace, and a great future.
The hearts of the Israelites were still tied to their old ways and idols. Our hearts need to be aligned with the promises of God. God has called all of us to speak life. Your words are being tied to life or death.
Q: Have you heard of rumbling around you, people speaking out due to their circumstances? What needs to change in your life? What do you need to be saying about this situation or circumstance?
We tend to downplay or minimize the authority of our leaders.
In Numbers 14:4, we see that rebellion turned into the rejection of God’s chosen and faithful leaders, knowing full well that God has placed them there for this time. The Israelites refused the leadership God appointed and the promises He made. If you continue reading, you see that only the two spies got entry into the promised land.
When we talk about listening and speaking, it’s 75% of our waking hours; we speak over our kids, wives, and family members. When we recognize that what I say and what I hear is vital to the growth or destruction of myself and the people around me, then we value these moments. This is not to be taken lightly.
Q: Have you ever doubted the leadership that God has placed over you? What was the circumstance? Write down the thoughts you had. Did you speak any of them out loud? Did you share them with others? What was the result?
Three types of communication
The most significant responsibility of our lives is the conversation we have with others. We can ruin their future with a bad word but help build their future with good words.
These are the three different types of conversations we can have with others:
- Proactive Communication – the next 2-5 years
- Personal Communication – Home, kids, finances
- Intimate Communication- – You and your spouse or closest friend
It is important to let God be bigger than your problem and bigger than your situation. Communication reminds us to go back to His word to us to recall the promises He has given us.
Your words hurt or heal.
There is a war going on every day, for your words! Do you know why the enemy attacks are words so much? He knows the power you have in your words; he knows it was created to build. Jesus promised us to send a teacher, the Holy Spirit. He teaches us when to speak and what to speak. He helps us measure our words.
How do we know if we speak words of Life? Watch your Fruit!
Q: The Israelites allowed bitterness to enter their hearts. They spoke out of the abundance of the heart. What is in your heart today? What report are you speaking?