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Who am I really?
One of the most important things for Christians to do in their pursuit of a closer walk with the Father is answer the question of Identity! The definition of identity is who you are, the way you think about yourself, the way you are viewed by the world, and the characteristics that define you. An example of an identity is a person’s name. We build our lives around who we are.
Our identity doesn’t just happen one day; it is developed over time. Much of who we are is because of our past, upbringing, trauma, and struggles. I believe one of the biggest struggles Christians have, especially new or immature Christians, is overcoming the past. We must remember that we are not the sum of our past events, our past is not our enemy, and our past is not our identity. Our identity, who we really are, is found in Christ.
Key Passages: Joshua 24:14-15 (NLT)
14 “So fear the LORD and serve him wholeheartedly. Put away forever the idols your ancestors worshiped when they lived beyond the Euphrates River and in Egypt. Serve the LORD alone. 15 But if you refuse to serve the LORD, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the LORD.”
I am Accepted – Not Rejected
Key Scripture: Jeremiah 29:12, “In those days when you pray, I will listen.”
There will always be people who won’t accept you. But their acceptance what really matters. God loves you unconditionally. He always accepts you. His love is complete, unchanging, and will never leave you. No matter what.
Q: How has rejection affected your identity? What does it mean to be accepted by God?
I am Qualified – Not Disqualified
Key Scripture: 2 Corinthians 5:17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!
Before God, all of us were disqualified. We were not nearly good enough. Even on our best days, we fall short of God’s holiness. But God, in His great love and grace qualifies us. Though we don’t live perfectly, He has declared us perfect. No matter your past, you are qualified because He is the one who qualifies us.
Q: How has feeling unqualified affected your identity? What does it mean to be qualified by God?
I am Victorious – Not defeated
Key Scripture: 1 John 5:4-5 For every child of God defeats this evil world, and we achieve this victory through our faith. And who can win this battle against the world? Only those who believe that Jesus is the Son of God.
Many of us are living defeated, unsatisfying, and unsatisfactory lives. It is hard to claim victory when we’re standing in what feels like defeat. Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble.” The faith of the believer is the victory that overcomes. Every believer is an overcomer and is victorious because they have eternal life in Christ (John 3:16) and abundant life now (John 10:10). God’s Spirit lives within the believer to provide power over the battles of this world.
Q: How has feeling defeated affected your identity? What does it mean to be victorious?
I am Forgiven – Not Condemned
Key Scripture: Romans 5:8-9 But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God’s condemnation.
One of the devil’s biggest weapons in his bag of dirty tricks is condemnation. To condemn means “to pronounce to be guilty, to sentence to punishment, or to pass judgment against.” The good news is that Jesus is our Advocate, our defense attorney. The word “condemn” also means “to judge unfit for use or service.” That’s the enemy’s goal with condemnation—to declare us unfit for use. There’s no sin too big for the blood of Jesus and no failure too great for God’s grace.” 1 John 3:20 reassures, “For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart.” Jesus said it best, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more” (Jn. 8:11). Which voice are you listening to?
Q: How has feeling condemned affected your identity? What does it mean to be fully forgiven?
I am Child – Not Slave or Orphan
Key Scripture: Romans 8:15-17 So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, “Abba, Father.” For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory. But if we are to share his glory, we must also share his suffering.
Would you prefer to be a slave or a son? A wife longs to be loved as a desired bride not a maid. A little boy or girl desires to rest their head on their daddy’s chest rather than be parentless in an orphanage. We would all rather own property or be the property of a taskmaster? One of the great things about being a follower of Jesus is that we are not orphans, slaves, or maids. We are adopted as ‘sons’ of God.
Q: How has feeling like a slave or orphan affected your identity? What does it mean to be a child of God?
I am Loved – Not Hated
Key Scripture: Romans 8:35-39 Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”) No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.
No truth will transform your life more than God’s gracious love for you in Christ. To the extent that you understand it, feel it, and live daily with a deep sense of its reality, you will live in victory over temptation and sin and be able joyfully to persevere through trials.
Q: How has feeling hated affected your identity? What does it mean to be loved unconditionally?